ghost07 asked:
could you tell how does a child’s perception changes with regard to single/ divorced parents?
Sandra
could you tell how does a child’s perception changes with regard to single/ divorced parents?
Sandra
Archive for the ‘Psychology’ Category
What is the effect of single parenting on a children psychic?
Wednesday, April 8th, 2009What is the best way to handle this parenting question?
Wednesday, April 1st, 2009
bentley b asked:
I love my child more than anything in this world. I will always give him whatever he wants. (No, he is not a spoiled brat as he truely appreciates everything).
I love my child more than anything in this world. I will always give him whatever he wants. (No, he is not a spoiled brat as he truely appreciates everything).
He is 16, he wants to be a race car driver. He has done several modifications to his car to make it faster. He is very serious to this hopeful career path as now he is enrolled in college mechanic courses.
I want to support him and be there and encourage his goals in life. But, I am so worried about this race car thing as I know he races around town. Of course since he’s 16, he thinks he knows everything and that he drives so well a car accident is not imaginable.
I am so scared that one day I am going to get a call, but then at the same time, I want him to know I am behind him in any decision he wants to make in this life. I know he is 16, and I am stuck in between being a mother, his guidance and his support. What should I do? I am so worried about a car accident.
Danny
How to Parent Teenagers?
Thursday, October 16th, 2008
Jennifer Baxt asked:
Parenting in general can be difficult, even though there are many positives to parenting. The bond between the child and the parent, for example, can often be the most rewarding part of becoming a parent for many. For others, it is the joy of caring for someone who will continue on the family bloodline and watching the person grow from an infant into a healthy adult who is a successful addition to society. However, parenting is not all joy. It takes time, patience and a whole lot of commitment. This is why it is stressed that before anyone chooses to become a parent, they seriously think about it before making the choice.
If the choice is made to become a parent, there are many stages that their child will go through before they are an adult. Throughout these various stages there are many good times, but there can also be a lot of difficult times. One stage, however, that many parents will complain about is the dreaded teenage years. Everyone has heard the horror stories of their teenage children becoming pregnant, getting into drugs or becoming too much to handle in the home. Here is the truth about these kinds of problems; none of these have to happen. Proper education, spending time with the children and showing that they have someone to talk to who will support them no matter what, and who have a good bond with their parent will most likely not have any of these problems. Most children who have a healthy relationship with their parents are more likely to succeed in life and not run into those kinds of problems. Communicating with the kids and being supportive of them will encourage a better relationship, while poor communication and lack of support can often lead to teenagers getting into trouble.
Teenagers are in a critical stage where they are changing in many ways before they become full adults. These kinds of changes, including changes in the hormones as well as in some chemicals in the brain can often lead to the typical teenage behavior that most are familiar with. Being more a friend, and this term is used lightly because they still need a parent, than an overbearing parent will tend to yield a positive response from the teenager. Online therapists and counselors are available online for any parents who may be having trouble with their teenagers. Seeking help in the form of advice and suggestions before any real problem builds is always the best thing to do. The online therapist or counselor can help the parent to diffuse a volatile situation and help the parent and teenager to build a better understanding of each other. It is possible to have a healthy relationship with a teenage kid; it just takes patience and understanding from the parent as well as some patience and understanding from the teenager. Online counselors and therapists can work with the parent and the kid to build a stronger relationship that will help to bring more positivity in the home. Continued negativity in the home will only lead to a worse situation.
Leon
Parenting in general can be difficult, even though there are many positives to parenting. The bond between the child and the parent, for example, can often be the most rewarding part of becoming a parent for many. For others, it is the joy of caring for someone who will continue on the family bloodline and watching the person grow from an infant into a healthy adult who is a successful addition to society. However, parenting is not all joy. It takes time, patience and a whole lot of commitment. This is why it is stressed that before anyone chooses to become a parent, they seriously think about it before making the choice.
If the choice is made to become a parent, there are many stages that their child will go through before they are an adult. Throughout these various stages there are many good times, but there can also be a lot of difficult times. One stage, however, that many parents will complain about is the dreaded teenage years. Everyone has heard the horror stories of their teenage children becoming pregnant, getting into drugs or becoming too much to handle in the home. Here is the truth about these kinds of problems; none of these have to happen. Proper education, spending time with the children and showing that they have someone to talk to who will support them no matter what, and who have a good bond with their parent will most likely not have any of these problems. Most children who have a healthy relationship with their parents are more likely to succeed in life and not run into those kinds of problems. Communicating with the kids and being supportive of them will encourage a better relationship, while poor communication and lack of support can often lead to teenagers getting into trouble.
Teenagers are in a critical stage where they are changing in many ways before they become full adults. These kinds of changes, including changes in the hormones as well as in some chemicals in the brain can often lead to the typical teenage behavior that most are familiar with. Being more a friend, and this term is used lightly because they still need a parent, than an overbearing parent will tend to yield a positive response from the teenager. Online therapists and counselors are available online for any parents who may be having trouble with their teenagers. Seeking help in the form of advice and suggestions before any real problem builds is always the best thing to do. The online therapist or counselor can help the parent to diffuse a volatile situation and help the parent and teenager to build a better understanding of each other. It is possible to have a healthy relationship with a teenage kid; it just takes patience and understanding from the parent as well as some patience and understanding from the teenager. Online counselors and therapists can work with the parent and the kid to build a stronger relationship that will help to bring more positivity in the home. Continued negativity in the home will only lead to a worse situation.
Leon
Decoding Peaceful Parenting
Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008
anubhav asked:
Every Parent’s Nightmare
Most of the parent-child conflicts are those centred on daily activities like going to bed or waking up, limitations of going outdoors and school homework. Many parents feel as they are engaged in a constant power struggle with their children. Parents feel frustrated and worn out and the children feel questioned and irritated. In cases of extreme hostility between the two, a child may feel threatened and determined to resist his parents’ wishes.
Authoritative Parenting?
Some parents are prone to threatening or using extreme authority over the children. They tend to make many demands and enforce them with punishment or promises. When the child crosses teenage years, such parents usually find themselves involved in a bitter struggle with their child. Even if children aren’t immediately resisting parental demands, parents could still be generating a negative environment every time they attempt to exert supremacy over the children.
The Dilemma
Most parents want their children to have the characters and the skills which enable them to make the best choices in life. However, they seem to ignore the fact that these skills can’t be developed if a child develops a fear of blame or parental punishment. Anger and resentment is common among children today as they try and fight out the level of parental control exerted on them. These negative feelings of anger and bitterness are sometimes expressed through self-destructive habits that a child develops. Many such children become violent at school, start using abusive behaviour or may get hooked on to bad company and the use of alcohol or even drugs.
Finding a Solution
Peaceful parenting begins from the time children are toddlers. The child at that age has to be made to realise what is wrong and not acceptable. The best way to make him follow a rule is leading by example. Again, to let him feel empowered, try and make the child responsible for certain household issues when he grows up. This could include taking care of the toolbox or buying the weekly quota of fruits for the family or keeping an eye as to which member of the family has been overspending. This process combines self-realisation and responsibility for the child. These skills help to create children who can embrace understanding and peace and are at ease with the idea of being disciplined and liberated at the same time.
Annette
Every Parent’s Nightmare
Most of the parent-child conflicts are those centred on daily activities like going to bed or waking up, limitations of going outdoors and school homework. Many parents feel as they are engaged in a constant power struggle with their children. Parents feel frustrated and worn out and the children feel questioned and irritated. In cases of extreme hostility between the two, a child may feel threatened and determined to resist his parents’ wishes.
Authoritative Parenting?
Some parents are prone to threatening or using extreme authority over the children. They tend to make many demands and enforce them with punishment or promises. When the child crosses teenage years, such parents usually find themselves involved in a bitter struggle with their child. Even if children aren’t immediately resisting parental demands, parents could still be generating a negative environment every time they attempt to exert supremacy over the children.
The Dilemma
Most parents want their children to have the characters and the skills which enable them to make the best choices in life. However, they seem to ignore the fact that these skills can’t be developed if a child develops a fear of blame or parental punishment. Anger and resentment is common among children today as they try and fight out the level of parental control exerted on them. These negative feelings of anger and bitterness are sometimes expressed through self-destructive habits that a child develops. Many such children become violent at school, start using abusive behaviour or may get hooked on to bad company and the use of alcohol or even drugs.
Finding a Solution
Peaceful parenting begins from the time children are toddlers. The child at that age has to be made to realise what is wrong and not acceptable. The best way to make him follow a rule is leading by example. Again, to let him feel empowered, try and make the child responsible for certain household issues when he grows up. This could include taking care of the toolbox or buying the weekly quota of fruits for the family or keeping an eye as to which member of the family has been overspending. This process combines self-realisation and responsibility for the child. These skills help to create children who can embrace understanding and peace and are at ease with the idea of being disciplined and liberated at the same time.
Annette
When Parents Divorce
Saturday, June 21st, 2008
Jennifer Baxt asked:
In many cases when a married couple decides to get divorced, the children can often be forgotten. It is not that the parents have purposely forgotten about their children, they have just become so caught up in the tension between each other that how their fighting and divorce is affecting their child can go unnoticed. A divorce does not simply mean an life altering change in the parents lives, it also means a life altering change in the child’s life, especially for children who are very young and do not understand why their parents are moving away from each other. Divorce is a stressful event that has a major impact on the entire immediate family and it must be stressed that if the parents are going through a divorce, they might want to consider getting some counseling for the children so that they don’t suffer as a result of their family being torn apart.
When a family is whole, the child has a stable existence created by the attention they receive from their parents. This world is shattered if two parents can not get along, fight constantly and eventually divorce. To a child, this may seem like something that is their fault and that they are in some way responsible for the family falling apart. This is a common reaction from a child who does not have a clear understanding about adult relationships and how mom and dad would probably be better living apart. Taking the child to a family counselor can help the child because the counselor will hopefully be able to help the child understand that the break up was not his or her fault, and that the world is not coming to an end. There is family counseling available at clinics or even on the internet. A parent can communicate with the online counselor and get suggestions on how to help his or her child cope with what is happening.
The important thing for parents to remember when going to their divorce is that this is going to impact their children who may not entirely understand what is going on. It is not only the parents who are going to be flooded with negative emotions as a result of what is going on. Often, the younger the child is, the less they will probably understand and the more negative emotions and upset they are likely to experience. It is a stressful process for the parents as well, which can often make it difficult for them to push away their own feelings and help their child through their own emotions. This is where a family therapist can help. A family therapist, either online or in person, will work with the parents and the children together to help them work through the stress of what is going on. Therapy or counseling can help everyone make it through with more confidence, less blame and less guilt, which are three of the most devastating emotions family members can feel after the parents have gone through a divorce.
Brad
In many cases when a married couple decides to get divorced, the children can often be forgotten. It is not that the parents have purposely forgotten about their children, they have just become so caught up in the tension between each other that how their fighting and divorce is affecting their child can go unnoticed. A divorce does not simply mean an life altering change in the parents lives, it also means a life altering change in the child’s life, especially for children who are very young and do not understand why their parents are moving away from each other. Divorce is a stressful event that has a major impact on the entire immediate family and it must be stressed that if the parents are going through a divorce, they might want to consider getting some counseling for the children so that they don’t suffer as a result of their family being torn apart.
When a family is whole, the child has a stable existence created by the attention they receive from their parents. This world is shattered if two parents can not get along, fight constantly and eventually divorce. To a child, this may seem like something that is their fault and that they are in some way responsible for the family falling apart. This is a common reaction from a child who does not have a clear understanding about adult relationships and how mom and dad would probably be better living apart. Taking the child to a family counselor can help the child because the counselor will hopefully be able to help the child understand that the break up was not his or her fault, and that the world is not coming to an end. There is family counseling available at clinics or even on the internet. A parent can communicate with the online counselor and get suggestions on how to help his or her child cope with what is happening.
The important thing for parents to remember when going to their divorce is that this is going to impact their children who may not entirely understand what is going on. It is not only the parents who are going to be flooded with negative emotions as a result of what is going on. Often, the younger the child is, the less they will probably understand and the more negative emotions and upset they are likely to experience. It is a stressful process for the parents as well, which can often make it difficult for them to push away their own feelings and help their child through their own emotions. This is where a family therapist can help. A family therapist, either online or in person, will work with the parents and the children together to help them work through the stress of what is going on. Therapy or counseling can help everyone make it through with more confidence, less blame and less guilt, which are three of the most devastating emotions family members can feel after the parents have gone through a divorce.
Brad
