You say your mom is bipolar and you are moving in a month, please, do not even worry about it. Just let her say what she wants and go on.

You’re a woman in your own right (to a degree since you still live with her) and she shouldn’t be trying to parent you now. Everything that she has done to raise you to this point is done now so commenting on anything else now is moot.

However, give her the benefit of the doubt for wanting to try since she knows she screwed up so much before. Yes they have issues but even they can be forgiven for messing up. Love them with all their flaws and take what they say with a grain of salt.

I think she is too late on trying to “make you mind”. At your age, I would think parent/child relationships would have moved on to more of an even footing, where you have things in common, and enjoy each other’s company.