Comments on: Can a relationship work with 2 people that have different parenting styles? http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/ A blog discussion about parenting. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:04:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Elizabeth http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/comment-page-1/#comment-426 Elizabeth Mon, 25 Aug 2008 12:31:48 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/#comment-426 I don't know if this would offend her, but you could show her what the parenting specialists have to say (they're with you). You could even watch a couple of episodes of Super Nanny with her. Do this all in a way that shows you're interested in parenting since you're a part of their lives, and not in a way that makes it seem like you're trying to prove her wrong. It can be something you do TOGETHER so that you'll BOTH learn (wink, wink). Just be sure to not pull an "I told you so" if she decides to try what the experts say. Best wishes! I don’t know if this would offend her, but you could show her what the parenting specialists have to say (they’re with you). You could even watch a couple of episodes of Super Nanny with her. Do this all in a way that shows you’re interested in parenting since you’re a part of their lives, and not in a way that makes it seem like you’re trying to prove her wrong. It can be something you do TOGETHER so that you’ll BOTH learn (wink, wink). Just be sure to not pull an “I told you so” if she decides to try what the experts say. Best wishes!

]]> By: Chris 123 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/comment-page-1/#comment-425 Chris 123 Sat, 23 Aug 2008 14:28:47 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/#comment-425 no! u both have to come to some kind of aggreement. if not, yur kids will korupt each others minds! not good no! u both have to come to some kind of aggreement. if not, yur kids will korupt each others minds! not good

]]> By: JC http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/comment-page-1/#comment-424 JC Fri, 22 Aug 2008 11:18:17 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/#comment-424 I agree that it's time to sit down and talk about your feelings and frustrations. If you are co-habitating as a family, then it seems unfair that your gf pulls, the "Well, she's my child" bit whenever she is displeased with you disciplining her daughter. (Either you're a part of the little girl's life or you're not. If the former, then that also encompasses you having equal say when it comes to discipline. That probably won't go over well but it's an important point that your gf needs to accept.) Your gf's parenting style sounds laissez faire, whereas yours is more direct. By talking about your feelings and goals and coming to an agreement, you can present a united front to the little girl so that she isn't confused or tries to manipulate the situation by pitting mommy's answer to yours. It's a tough situation but, if you reassure your gf that your disciplining goals are not to hurt her daughter in any way but, rather, to provide some direction and structure, she might be more receptive to it. Good luck. I agree that it’s time to sit down and talk about your feelings and frustrations. If you are co-habitating as a family, then it seems unfair that your gf pulls, the “Well, she’s my child” bit whenever she is displeased with you disciplining her daughter. (Either you’re a part of the little girl’s life or you’re not. If the former, then that also encompasses you having equal say when it comes to discipline. That probably won’t go over well but it’s an important point that your gf needs to accept.)

Your gf’s parenting style sounds laissez faire, whereas yours is more direct. By talking about your feelings and goals and coming to an agreement, you can present a united front to the little girl so that she isn’t confused or tries to manipulate the situation by pitting mommy’s answer to yours.

It’s a tough situation but, if you reassure your gf that your disciplining goals are not to hurt her daughter in any way but, rather, to provide some direction and structure, she might be more receptive to it. Good luck.

]]> By: siow yin http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/comment-page-1/#comment-423 siow yin Tue, 19 Aug 2008 11:09:41 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/#comment-423 Try to having discussion with ur GF and come out with a good solution. some time a better way to having discusstion with each other first. you can try to tell her what u facing about and the problem u need to solve Try to having discussion with ur GF and come out with a good solution. some time a better way to having discusstion with each other first. you can try to tell her what u facing about and the problem u need to solve

]]> By: sariere http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/comment-page-1/#comment-422 sariere Sat, 16 Aug 2008 21:27:13 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/grade-schooler/can-a-relationship-work-with-2-people-that-have-different-parenting-styles/#comment-422 You have to come to a compromise and combined both of your styles and then stick with it. You have to come to a compromise and combined both of your styles and then stick with it.

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