Comments on: How do you politely get your in-laws to butt out when it comes to parenting your child? http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/ A blog discussion about parenting. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:12:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: autbrat http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-476 autbrat Wed, 23 Jul 2008 06:48:58 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-476 If you find out could you let me know??? lol I had my in-laws for a visit for my son't first b-day and they have drove me nuts all weekend. First they swore up and down he was teething, because he got a little cranky in the afternoon (he hadn't gotten enough sleep the night before and they got him up at 6 am when he doesn't usually get up until 7-7:30 and yes it makes a huge difference) then if he wakes up at night, rather than let him go back to sleep on his own they ran in there to check on him because they thought something was wrong so now he is waking up 3-4 times a night and not sleeping through the night like he was because he knows if he cries they will come in there. And I just let him go stay 2 weeks with them because my husband is gone to Iraq and I am pregnant with our second so I need a little break, but I am scared because I am pretty sure that I am going to have to start from scratch with him and his sleeping habits. Geesh. So like I said you find out you let me know please !!!! If you find out could you let me know??? lol I had my in-laws for a visit for my son’t first b-day and they have drove me nuts all weekend. First they swore up and down he was teething, because he got a little cranky in the afternoon (he hadn’t gotten enough sleep the night before and they got him up at 6 am when he doesn’t usually get up until 7-7:30 and yes it makes a huge difference) then if he wakes up at night, rather than let him go back to sleep on his own they ran in there to check on him because they thought something was wrong so now he is waking up 3-4 times a night and not sleeping through the night like he was because he knows if he cries they will come in there. And I just let him go stay 2 weeks with them because my husband is gone to Iraq and I am pregnant with our second so I need a little break, but I am scared because I am pretty sure that I am going to have to start from scratch with him and his sleeping habits. Geesh. So like I said you find out you let me know please !!!!

]]> By: Merlins_child http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-475 Merlins_child Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:06:08 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-475 Umm dont think theres a nice way. i got into a screaming arguement with my mother in law after my daughter was born and i refused to go over there for months afterward. I guess it depends on how your relationship is with your inlaws. I would just tell them very nicely that u appreciate their concern and if you ever have a question and want their opinon you will ask but until then you want to figure the parenting game out on your own! Hope this helps! Umm dont think theres a nice way. i got into a screaming arguement with my mother in law after my daughter was born and i refused to go over there for months afterward. I guess it depends on how your relationship is with your inlaws. I would just tell them very nicely that u appreciate their concern and if you ever have a question and want their opinon you will ask but until then you want to figure the parenting game out on your own! Hope this helps!

]]> By: c s http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-474 c s Sat, 19 Jul 2008 06:14:38 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-474 Is Granny at an age where she'll ask repeated questions to anyone on any topic or is it just your child? I think it is caring of her to leave her own home to smoke to accommodate her granddaughter being there. That takes alot of heart and if I were you, appreciate her for it. She is to old to be changing her ways and it appears that she's making the effort and her curiosity about the teeth and sneezing is her expressing her care and worry for her granddaughter that she loves. She doesn't want to miss a moment. Don't judge her wrongly. If you are a very caring person yourself, you may turn out the same way when your her age and your daughter may be writing yahoo asking advice how to tell you to back off. ( I know it sounds funny but it is true!) Don't lose your cool, you'll do just fine. Just hang in there and appreciate that you have someone there who cares too. Is Granny at an age where she’ll ask repeated questions to anyone on any topic or is it just your child? I think it is caring of her to leave her own home to smoke to accommodate her granddaughter being there. That takes alot of heart and if I were you, appreciate her for it. She is to old to be changing her ways and it appears that she’s making the effort and her curiosity about the teeth and sneezing is her expressing her care and worry for her granddaughter that she loves. She doesn’t want to miss a moment. Don’t judge her wrongly. If you are a very caring person yourself, you may turn out the same way when your her age and your daughter may be writing yahoo asking advice how to tell you to back off. ( I know it sounds funny but it is true!)
Don’t lose your cool, you’ll do just fine. Just hang in there and appreciate that you have someone there who cares too.

]]> By: circusdejojo http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-473 circusdejojo Fri, 18 Jul 2008 09:24:21 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-473 You sound like a total female dog. Asking when her teeth come in is like asking a question of concern for your daughter. How can that be a bad think. She probably forgot that 3 months prior she asked the same question. Even if she asks every time, get over it. Its her house and thank god she doesnt smoke in the house. Any child can sneeze around cats, perfume, ect. You cant be over there more than a few hours at a time. My dad smoked 3 packs a day in the winter with the windows up and I am fine! I hate smoke and yell at smokers, but if they are going to take the time to get out of the house then shut your trap. Its a grandma, think of all the wonderful things she does for your child. You cant think she thinks your a bad parent unless you are! You sound like a total female dog. Asking when her teeth come in is like asking a question of concern for your daughter. How can that be a bad think. She probably forgot that 3 months prior she asked the same question. Even if she asks every time, get over it. Its her house and thank god she doesnt smoke in the house. Any child can sneeze around cats, perfume, ect. You cant be over there more than a few hours at a time. My dad smoked 3 packs a day in the winter with the windows up and I am fine! I hate smoke and yell at smokers, but if they are going to take the time to get out of the house then shut your trap. Its a grandma, think of all the wonderful things she does for your child. You cant think she thinks your a bad parent unless you are!

]]> By: jo p http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-472 jo p Wed, 16 Jul 2008 18:45:33 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-472 maybe she is just asking these things to see if you will ask her when do most kids teeth come in she just getting old and need to fell needed so maybe you could give her a chance but if you think it overbearing. than tell her to let you have your turn learning to raise children because it is a learning experience.love allyour granparents. they want be around for ever maybe she is just asking these things to see if you will ask her when do most kids teeth come in she just getting old and need to fell needed so maybe you could give her a chance but if you think it overbearing. than tell her to let you have your turn learning to raise children because it is a learning experience.love allyour granparents. they want be around for ever

]]> By: sunni1028 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-471 sunni1028 Mon, 14 Jul 2008 06:07:45 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-471 Just tell her nicely to sit and enjoy the child, let you and your husband worry about the other stuff. Than get her occupied with something else. It's rough because she is probably thinking that this is one of her own. Patience is key word here for you. Good luck! Just tell her nicely to sit and enjoy the child, let you and your husband worry about the other stuff. Than get her occupied with something else. It’s rough because she is probably thinking that this is one of her own. Patience is key word here for you. Good luck!

]]> By: Clockwork Grape http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-470 Clockwork Grape Fri, 11 Jul 2008 11:35:07 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-470 Keep in mind that the child is part of her family too - be a good sport about it - let her have her say, smile, change the subject and ignore her. Don't be rude, just don't let it get to you...as for the smoking - insist that she not smoke anywhere around the child. Keep in mind that the child is part of her family too - be a good sport about it - let her have her say, smile, change the subject and ignore her. Don’t be rude, just don’t let it get to you…as for the smoking - insist that she not smoke anywhere around the child.

]]> By: aarika http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-469 aarika Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:30:58 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-469 if i didnt know better i would think you were talking about my grandmother. my daughter is almost 3 and she acts as though i dont know the first thing about her or raising kids because i dont do things the way she did the best example was she thought i was wrong to put her asleep on her back "i put all my kids asleep on their stomachs and they didnt die and they didnt have gas' she drives me crazy but really to be respectful to her the only thing i can do is listen to what she has to say and pick from that what i think is a good idea (she does have a lot of those since she raised a bunch of kids herself) and ignore the things i dont and if she persists explain things as they are seen today but then things as far as progress go sometimes i think she is nuts like she says all of her kids were potty trained by a year old but as for your situation i would explain to her that the average time for a baby to start getting teeth is at 6 or 7 months and some take a little longer and it isnt a big deal and if she sneezes just say its allergies which isnt exactly a lie if you expect it may be from the smoke just take her with a grain of salt she probably just wants to be helpful in that wierd grandmotherly kind of way if i didnt know better i would think you were talking about my grandmother. my daughter is almost 3 and she acts as though i dont know the first thing about her or raising kids because i dont do things the way she did the best example was she thought i was wrong to put her asleep on her back “i put all my kids asleep on their stomachs and they didnt die and they didnt have gas’ she drives me crazy but really to be respectful to her the only thing i can do is listen to what she has to say and pick from that what i think is a good idea (she does have a lot of those since she raised a bunch of kids herself) and ignore the things i dont and if she persists explain things as they are seen today but then things as far as progress go sometimes i think she is nuts like she says all of her kids were potty trained by a year old but as for your situation i would explain to her that the average time for a baby to start getting teeth is at 6 or 7 months and some take a little longer and it isnt a big deal and if she sneezes just say its allergies which isnt exactly a lie if you expect it may be from the smoke just take her with a grain of salt she probably just wants to be helpful in that wierd grandmotherly kind of way

]]> By: IrishKar http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-468 IrishKar Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:20:01 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-468 This is your husband's grandmother! Just humor her. When she asks about your daughter's teeth, tell her they'll be in soon and that you're waiting also. When she asks about the sneezing, I would tell her that your daughter can smell cigarette smoke and it bothers her, but only if you and your husband don't smoke. She doesn't seem to be putting down your parenting skills, only trying to be involved because she loves the child. As a parent, you have no control over when teeth come in, etc. When I was first married, we went to visit his mother. She looked at her son and told him how pale he looked and was I cooking for him!! LOL This is your husband’s grandmother! Just humor her. When she asks about your daughter’s teeth, tell her they’ll be in soon and that you’re waiting also. When she asks about the sneezing, I would tell her that your daughter can smell cigarette smoke and it bothers her, but only if you and your husband don’t smoke. She doesn’t seem to be putting down your parenting skills, only trying to be involved because she loves the child. As a parent, you have no control over when teeth come in, etc.

When I was first married, we went to visit his mother. She looked at her son and told him how pale he looked and was I cooking for him!! LOL

]]> By: leolady0765 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-467 leolady0765 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 08:55:22 +0000 http://www.bookparenting.com/parenting/how-do-you-politely-get-your-in-laws-to-butt-out-when-it-comes-to-parenting-your-child/#comment-467 maybe she is always asking because her memory is bad? parents and grandparents often think they have all the knowledge when it comes to raising children, so just take anything she says with a grain of salt. it's probably not worth upsetting her and jeopardising a good relationship you all have. as for the smoking, if she is only smoking in the garage and not in the house, i don't think there is much harm it can do unless the baby is in the same room with her while she's smoking. make sure the baby isn't around her when she smokes maybe she is always asking because her memory is bad? parents and grandparents often think they have all the knowledge when it comes to raising children, so just take anything she says with a grain of salt. it’s probably not worth upsetting her and jeopardising a good relationship you all have. as for the smoking, if she is only smoking in the garage and not in the house, i don’t think there is much harm it can do unless the baby is in the same room with her while she’s smoking. make sure the baby isn’t around her when she smokes

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