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Should parenting skills be a required class for all high school students?

Saturday, January 31st, 2009
eroticohio asked:


Be sure to offer some thoughtful reasons for your answer. If your answer is yes, then what are some of the things that you think should be taught in such a class?

Since a lot of people might not have considered this idea, here is a brief argument in favor: Parenting is certainly among the most important job in the world, and it is not something that everyone is just naturally good at. We teach every child to do math problems (or at least we attempt to), even though a lot of them will end up doing very little beyond basic arithmetic in their adult lives. Why? Because they might need these skills at some point. And besides, it is good for young brains to be exposed to certain ways of thinking. Couldn’t this same argument be applied to parenting – especially since most people will actually become parents at some point, and parents literally have children’s lives in their hands?

Tom

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Joy of Parenting

Sunday, September 28th, 2008
parenting
nagaraja rao m r asked:


Joy of parenting

Parenting starts with the joy of :

• taking care of the baby

• observing the baby

• seeing the baby grow

• seeing the baby play and react

• the love that the baby would show to its parents

Of course parenting is not a bed of roses, but it is hard work and sometimes very tiring, very difficult job.

Feeding the baby

Feeding the baby is one of the most difficult tasks most mothers have to go through. They have use all their wisdom in cooking and tricking and coaxing the baby to take food !

And while the baby is being fed, in between try to pat very softly on the back, to remove air from the stomach.

If the air does not come out, then either the baby will stop taking food or will start crying after a while due to air bubbles in the stomach.

Even babies will not like the same food over and over again. Dishes have to be spaced !!.

Likes and dislikes of the baby

As time passes by, the child does start to display his/her likes and dislikes.

Sometimes its easy to accept what the baby likes. Sometimes its difficult to understand what and why the baby likes or dislikes something.

Baby / child behaviour

Accepting child’s behaviour as it is, is not always advisable. If the child does something that would normally not be acceptable, then it is better to convey to the baby that it is not to be done. We can convey our feelings by showing angry face or by gesturing not to do and even telling it as such.

If we do not make soft approach to correct baby’s behaviour it can lead to problems as the child grows.

Babies must make noise !

Even if the baby cannot reply back in words, we must keep on talking.

And the baby will normally respond by speaking words that apparently do not have any meaning. A baby which does not make any sounds, must be taken to ENT doctor. Because if the baby can listen, then it will make sounds in reply. If the baby cannot listen then it would not try to make sounds.

Making sounds is an indication that the baby is able to hear us !

Baby / child tricks

One of the most common tricks babies or children use, is to cry to get what they want !

If you give in once, in all probability you will lose control over discipline of the child.

First time itself, explain to the child and let it cry. Do not give in. Repeat this a few times and the child will not use this trick.

Do not give in to crying because you are busy or you have to go to work.

Try to use logic with kids and see if there is anything alternative that can be given.

Another trick kids might use is pretending to be sick !

And this trick is definitely tricky, must mothers should be able to detect it and handle softly / appropriately.

Also kids will try to tell mother, that father agreed for something, without ever discussing with the father. And vice versa. So in the starting stages itself the parent must in a general way speak to their partner and see what the status is.

Of course kids are smart and sometimes we cannot catch them. But if we cross verify with our partners, this trick will not work for long.

Medical

There will be times when the baby will need medical attention be it for the sake of immunization or ailment - God forbid.

In front of the baby, we should try to control our reactions and encourage the baby that things will be fine.

Be it a child or an adult, not revealing the real issue, will save a lot of trouble in recouping.

Never try to give medicines based on your gut feeling.

Keep essential medicines (within expiry date) handy. Take notes from doctor, with regard to administerig medicines.

All mothers must know what quantity of medicine oral or otherwise should be given when the child has a particular level of temperature.

Also all mothers must know what medicines need not be given when a particular medicine is given.

Also the minimum time gap between medicines must be known. It should also be known as to when cold (not iced / chilled) or better absolutely normal water bath be given to reduce temperature.

Ice pads might also be an option to use.

Comparison with other children

Parents must avoid comparing children within the family or relatives or friends.

Every individual is unique and we must be little our kid by comparing with others.

All a parent can do is keep trying on and on to encourage a kid to do or not to do certain thing(s).

If parents compare with other kids, the kids too would do the same. And might even compare other parents with us.

Reward

Well who does not like reward. Children are no exception.

But we must remember the rule - TOO MUCH is TOO BAD.

Neither over do it, nor be too tight in giving rewards.

Never let the kids over focus on rewards, so that the value of rewards is not lost.

Punishment

Punishment too is sometimes needed.

How severe or how simple it has to be - differs case by case. Simple punishment at the starting stages is good and the same must be retained. After punishment, concessions must not be given too quickly. The child must realise that it will loose or miss out your love or something else, otherwise the child is unlikely to learn any lesson or become obedient.

Try to avoid punishing kids in front of others.

Don’t threaten punishment and then totally avoid it. If you do this, threatening will not work. If you threaten then give mild punishment.

If you say that the kid will miss TV show as punishment, then do make sure the kid will miss it. Otherwise your threats will not work.

Education

Encourage your child to do better and teach him to focus on his studies. Try to take time out to be with them and focus.

Once again do not compare your kids performance with that of others, in a manner that might hurt the kid.

Also do not force your kid to achieve what you might not have been able to achieve.

Give your child options to choose from for career and see what he likes. Do not impose your will upon the child.

Even if your kid is good in sports, make sure that he does study as well. The career span of sports persons are usually of short duration - forget about exceptions. Therefore good education to a sports person will help after they bow out of the field.

Career

Upon completion of education, we need to listen to the kids choices and guide them in selection of right organisation to start their career.

Saving / spending / investments

Child must be guided as to savings / spendings and investments. Parents should not take it for granted that since they spent for the kids, the kids earnings are now their share of income.

Of course taking money from the kids is no harm, but it should not become a bad habit.

Pubbing / partying

For reasonable ocassions pubbing or partying (both non-alcoholic) could be allowed, but it should not become a routine affair. It is not a culture of our society. It might not be good for us.

We need not try it to see, if it is good or bad.

Wish you all parents, all the best, all the time.



Albert

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What Every Parent Should Know

Monday, September 1st, 2008
parenting
Adam Henley asked:


Being a parent is the most wonderful experience in the world but at times it can prove to be the most challenging as well. No matter how much you prepare and anticipate there will be many situations that will take you by surprise.

Recognizing That You Need Help

One of the most important things is to recognize that you need help; most parents have the impressions that they are always right or that they are in control of the situation and find out the hard way that that was not the case. Most of us like to think that we do a great job at being a parent and therefore do not need parenting help. However, you don’t always need parenting help because you are not good at being a parent but also because you want to understand your child better.

Today we have many issues to address and deal with at one time, which in turn can become stressful for both yourself and your child in the long run. While you may be having marital, financial, emotional issues your child may be dealing with his/her equivalent problems, which can create a clash.

If you are in such a situation or to avoid getting there try and address these issues with special institutions that provide parenting help. These institutions are made available both online and locally where you live.

Other Situations That May Need Parenting Help

Parenting help may be needed especially if your child is practicing a dangerous habit such as smoking, drinking or worse, the use of drugs. In such situations professionals should be approached as soon as possible. While the habit of smoking and drinking can be discussed with your child before it gets out of hand, the one of using drugs usually needs help right away as any delay can prove fatal for your child.

Parenting help will provide you and your child with support in these situations because it will be hard on both therefore, do not hesitate to approach for help and save the day before it is too late.

Where To Look For Parental Help

Internet is the best place to look for parental help; here you will get a large number of sites and courses, which will help the parents as well as the children on many levels. Parental help does not only provide assistance in critical situations but also on everyday matters, where some parents may seek a better way to deal with situations.

Parental help will provide you with knowledge on how to approach and deal with good and bad situations alike so, look it up today and become a better parent.



Michael

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Are your Parenting Skills Good Enough?

Friday, June 20th, 2008
parenting
Clive Jenkins asked:


The preparation of having a baby is overwhelming, buying bottles, diapers, clothes and setting up the nursery, it is life long preparations in a way because we learn from our own parents and how we were raised.

Throughout this process you will find yourself daydreaming about beautiful days spend with your child and playing with them, but put all those dreams on hold for now. Those thoughts you had are all lovely but real life is not so. Parenting skills is also a requirement in the preparation process, and you better make sure you have good ones.

Being a Parent

The moment conception happens, your extremely challenging but gratifying job as a parent begins. This job is not a job you can quit when you do not like it anymore. It is a life long experience that rides on a rollercoaster, with sky high thrills and heart breaking downhill’s all throughout the way. To assist your child in learning how to cope with life and the ups and downs to it, you will need your parenting skills to kick in and guide you on the right path. This path will also lead you to self comfort in those difficult situations you will face in the future with your children.

You can’t go to the store and buy parenting skills, you can’t download it form the internet in a neat package, this is something you must become skilled at and gain. In order to become the parent you desire to be, you must investigate, allow us to help guide you where to look and get your questions answered:

Knowing you own kid, we all are different, and have unique character aspects that identifies us to be ourselves. We discovered that most children will copy their parents, and desire to follow into their footsteps, but then again there are those who do not want to be like their parents and defy. The children that rebel against what you have been used to are the ones you will need good parenting skills with, they will upset you and leave you discouraged at times.

Rediscover your inner child, you need to step inside your children’s shoes and remember what it was like to be a child, this is called rediscovering your inner child. You tend to forget how to relax and then get stuck in a bored lifestyle and stressful jobs. The best way to understand the issues at hand with your children is to place yourself in their shoes, and see things from their own perspective; you will then gain an understanding for how they are feeling and why they are rebelling. Good parenting skills will teach you how to listen to your child’s demands and not relinquish to them, but how to stand strong and view the issue in your child’s eyes and come to a solution that pleases both of you.

Some things that you will learn with good parenting skills is when to allow your child to win and when to make sure she loses in the battles you will face. There will be times when you have to disapprove of your child’s actions or attitude, but you do not want to this in a way that it will traumatize the child. Too much criticism is not good for any parent/child relationship.

Interested? Keep Reading To Discover Where To Find Good Parenting Skills

Who better to find out how to solve your parenting issues than to talk to someone who has went through it before? Online nowadays there are forums available, some with chat option, to find others who are already experienced in those problems you think are impossible to overcome. There are thousands of websites about parenting or related to parenting and you can find nearly any type of situation possible. Look at how others ended their issues; what their solution was and see if that may work for you as well.

Naturally, all this information cannot be processed by our brains in a day, it will probably take you a lifetime of learning, suffering and rejoicing before it is successful. The important thing to keep in mind is to never give up, and as long as you are open minded you have won half the battle already.



Troy

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